Dear Berry: My Life Has Forever Changed

By Mara Blumenthal on 10 Feb 2009 09:29 am EST

Dear Berry Dear Berry,

My life has forever changed and i am looking forward to living the great life. My wife and I have been married for almost four years and she has hated my blackberry for our entire marriage. Up until just over a month ago we had never gotten along when it came to us spending time together due to my phone(girlfriend as she put it) going off or me being on it.  I have tried four the last two years to get her one but never managed to make the sell.  That was until she saw the bold and the new curve.  She was pretty happy to try one out when I surprised her with her very own curve(8320), mainly because I hid her phone.

Now she has the 8900 and she is always coming home with a new accessory, theme, ringtone, and telling me that i need something new for my bold.  Now this may look like she has been turned into a career abuser but I think of it as a outreach program that worked.  The last month has been like winning the lottery or something. She is now a bb spotter, always chatting with people at the grocery store about her colorwared paint job and telling me all of the news that is on crackberry.

Life has truly changed and it is all due to her new love for the berry.  She is a great woman and the love that we share goes far beyond our love for our phones, but I must say that it has been really nice to share the love of the berry with her.  As the title says my life has forever changed. So for all of those addicts out there that has a spouse that is always asking you are always on your bb just do what i did get the one and hide there other phone.

- My Life Has Forever Changed

Dear "My Life Has Forever Changed",

I can't tell you how happy I am for you and your wife. Your story was fun to read and made me think of something from a different perspective. I hadn't thought about getting someone else involved with a berry as an outreach program. Almost an intervention of sorts that reaches out to the person who hasn't been exposed to the berry in a positive way. They have only been exposed in a negative way because they view it as always "getting in the way". This is an inclusive way to solve the issue of arguing, etc. over the berry when two people who are together and aren't "on the same page" on the topic. And, great idea (although a bit sneaky I must admit) to hide her phone.

I congratulate you on succeeding in bringing your lovely wife to the berry and to Crackberry. Additionally, it sounds like the times the two of you will have together now will go just a bit smoother :-).

Well...everyone, this is a great solution! If it's a spouse, partner, close friend or family member who has issues with your berry (all of us have them in our lives), we can all send thanks for this very creative way to change things!

Thank you and enjoy!

- Berry

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Dear Berry: My Life Has Forever Changed


Sounds like your marriage has some bigger issues if the like or dislike of a cell phone plays such a big role in your happiness.

I guess for Valentine's Day, evilhomer is getting his wife a bowling ball with EHJS engraved on it.

It works to include them, my wife too referred to my Blackberry as my "girlfriend". Last year I just one day went to the Verizon store and got us both 8130's, her a pink one and me a silver one, and from then on I get no complaints. We actually spend every waking moment apart sending each other Blackberry Messenger messages. It adds a additional bit of fun.

I know that situation, had some girl and she was always complaining about my BlackBerry, then I got the new Storm (which I sold 4 weeks later to change to the 8900( and the felt in love and also bought the Storm with a data plan from Vodafone. We're in contact everyday, even after our kinda short relationship ended and now we're good friends.

Love my BlackBerry.

This statement "Now she has the 8900 and she is always coming home with a new accessory, theme, ringtone, and telling me that i need something new for my bold."

Where is she getting the themes for the 8900?

Come on..a little research would have shown that themes for the 8900 are not available....

well for me my girlfriend didn't like the idea of blackberry as she is a wmo type of a girl.. then one day i just let her use my bold for the entier week and she slowly warmed up to the idea of owning a blackberry. Till one day she's won't return my bold so i had to get a new one for myself that is.. hehe...

I've been using a black berry for a few years and my now wife is always complaining and asking what I'm doing on it. She has had the really old 7100 which was a piece of crap, plus she didn't even have a berry plan so she never enjoyed the full benefits until a couple of weeks ago when she got the curve, but more importantly, a berry plan! now I'm the one telling her to put it down!

Great story, yea i made sure to get my girlfriend a 8310 when i had my iPhone but now have a Bold, its been awesome

That is awesome! My husband recently converted to a Storm and now we are both happy BB users!


Hahaha! I can understand where your wife is coming from. I hated sitting at dinner being ignored. I hated anyone else who also had a berry because I thought that it was rude & obnoxious!!! One day my husband decided to upgrade to his precious Bold & gave his old 8920 to me. Then he signed me up on a data plan...that was it! I was sold. I now understand the need to be on messenger and how fun it is. I love my new 8900 & love the fact that I can chat almost anywhere in the world to my husband. People who want an i-phone should just forget it, they're idiots! Before Blackberry I was a lost soul with no friends...

Hi all,
Thanks for all of your comments! They're great to read!

Keep those emails coming :>) Enjoy the fun!

I'd say this story is one juste like mine it brought us up to learn to past more quality time together because of the blackberry... mine is a cureve 8330 right now and just ordered a storm 9530 and i will probably buy my girlfriend a curve 8330 so she will also be able to learn even more of the world that can be explored and leave us to spend more time together... more time to explain to her how every thing works shes been trying to understand and read alot but right now she has a 8130 and its not the best example to startr with and to apreceate thanks to blackberry that made our relationship even stronger then ever.

I had the same issue. I got my Curve in November, and my wife never said anything, but I could tell she couldn't understand why I was always on my BB. Got her a Pearl in December. Now she understands!!

I did much the same thing with my spouse! Didn't need to hide her phone though!When I was getting my Bold at the store she loved what you could do with these phones and got a pink curve. A few days later she changed to a Bold! Talk about upgrade!