Dear Berry: HELP!!!

By Mara Blumenthal on 22 May 2008 12:42 pm EDT

Dear Berry Dear Berry,

My boyfriend and I are both fairly technical and LOVE new and shiny electronic toys. We spend as much time with our BBs as we do with each other, if not more. But something happened....

We decided together that we wouldn't take our BBs to a funeral we had to attend yesterday. In addition, we decided we wouldn't take our BBs to a formal dinner with high level political officials.
Well I kept my side of the bargain and he not only brought his BB to both events but tried to sneak and use it. I figured it out and then he was on it more than he was off it.

The funeral was very important and the political dinner had implications that could be positive for my career. I needed to make an excellent impression and I needed his support. The worst part is that he's not really sorry and thinks I should understand. See why I need your advice. Thank you,

- HELP!!

Dear "HELP!!",

You must sit down and speak with him. This represents so much more than the BB. He was disrespectful to you regarding the events and even worse the promise you made to each other. You need to be able to trust a commitment you have made to each other, even if it is about a BB. And I must say, his lack of remorse is extremely upsetting.

Take a few days to cool down and write your feelings down about how this made you feel and the implications of his behavior. I am with you and certainly hope he will soften and bring some understanding into the situation. If he does not, I'm so sorry to say you might have deeper issues in your relationship and you might want to seek some marriage counseling.

Best of luck!

- Berry

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Dear Berry: HELP!!!



You should know better than to take Bill to a political dinner after all those years in the White House. However, given your decision, you must realize that while Bill didn't keep his end of the bargan (why doesn't this surprise anyone?), this may have been a blessing in disquise. Having a toy to occupy him keep him from making silly statements that caused you even more grief. Perhaps someone on your staff slipped it to him... err the Blackberry that is... to keep him busy.

Try to look at the bright side, you will have plenty of time for yet more counseling in the coming days. =)

Good luck

Dear Michelle,

Not keeping promises is something many of us are concerned about if your husband is elected in November. Having promised each other you would not take your BBs to the funeral or political event was something you agreed on together as WE. Yes We Can is more like No He Can't. Obviously, he did not keep his part of the deal and slithered like a snake in deceiving you so that you would not press him with questions to prove what he really meant to do. Remember when he said "Whatever she says" in the debates? Personally I would take away his BB so he can actually do what he has promised you. That will be a Change You Can Believe In!

Best Wishes,

Vo Ter

Hi there I love crackberry, I am a newbiee too.. WEll I love being able to have ringtones and everyones like wow you got cool songs on your phone, and I look and say I know! lol. Anyways how offer does the ringtones get updated? I am looking for a new song by Weebie. Is there a why that I can be alerted when ther new songs have been added to the list or what?

Thank you crackberry for being here for all our phones.!

this sounds like something I would do, probably wouldn't go as far as the funeral, but the dinner is a must. I would have my crackberry forums up and running on that bad boy.